Psychological Secret: Language of the "sleep effect"

One day, the boy suddenly met a girl out soon: "You are so beautiful, I love you." Suddenly the face of a boy's confession, the girl is very cramped --- "He is not on anyone say such a thing it? only know how long, ah, say so, the point is not too frivolous? "Still later, the boy again with praise and confession of the girl, the girl promised to do the boy's girlfriend.
Why do girls on the negative impression of the boy disappeared before it?
Language "sleeping effect"
Psychologists have found that no matter what the information, its credibility will change over time, and this is the language of psychology, "sleep effect" refers to a person after receiving a message, over time, memory of there, leaving only the content of information, other information around the information will be gradually fading.
Over time, the girl the boy the first time in the face of praise, the "Who" and "how to say" and "where to say" and so forth will be forgotten, but remain in the memory of the girl, "I like you, "" You are too beautiful, "and so these core words are very clear. These memories will bring pure joy and girls happy. When the boy praising girls again, she will think, "he had said so," and praise will not be easily forgotten. At this moment, she thought not, "said the man would still not reliable," but "I was flattered last man boast that he ah!" In this way, the girl gave the boy a good impression snowball increasingly greater.
People tend to remember those who could hear their own information
Some of the information for the memory to maintain information while others were forgotten phenomenon, Institute of Psychology, Professor Yin Wengang said, "the human brain will filter the information, people tend to remember those who could hear their own, and the people according to their own logic, the subconscious will to rationalize the information, which can lead to distortion of information. "
Yinwen Gang told reporters, who, at the emotional impact, especially when affected by strong emotions, will pay special attention to certain things. Because of this, people pay attention to the range will become narrow. Thus, people might be interested in some of the details I remember very clearly, while others are more important as the details will be completely ignored.
Psychological experts believe that use of the language of psychology, "sleep effect", that is, they boast boast, repeated praise, one might therefore like you, and you will therefore be endless benefits. Do not worry about the other mistake, depression put words of praise in my heart.
Tips
Praise others have the skills
First, the praise should come from heart, not to praise and praise. Although people like to listen to the words of praise, but not any of praise can make each other happy. Can lead to other good impression can only be those based on the fact that the praise they crave. Instead, you no basis without roots, hypocritical to praise others, he not only puzzled, but will think you're slick, sly, hypocritical. For example, when you see a homely lady, Want to said to her: "You're very beautiful." The other side will immediately identify what you said is against their hypocrisy matter to the words. But if you look at her dress, conversation, behavior, found that her stand out in these areas and sincere praise, she will be happy to accept.
Second, Commending the act itself, not praised the people. Praised the act itself, to avoid embarrassing confusion, bias, and encourage more of similar behavior.
Third, commended Be specific, realistic and not too much exaggeration, to be targeted. For example, "You are too beautiful," better to say, "This dress is so beautiful on you," said, "You're intelligent," as saying "how can you come up with a good way to do this", "Your work is very good "To better than" You're a good staff. "
Fourth, commended the timely, and not long later. Appropriate to praise others, often to obtain the best results. Particularly praised the people in public in a timely manner, the effect is better. However, publicly praised the others, must be decent, but not feel embarrassed to let those who are praised. If it is in the meeting praised the people, to let go a little more active, should receive the meeting praised the special effects. When people plan to do something meaningful, the beginning of the praise he decided to make achievements will inspire the middle of praise good for each other persistent efforts, praised the end result can be sure that the direction of further efforts to achieve "commended one, inspired a group of "effect.